Have you ever wondered what true spirituality really is? What it means to live in harmony with yourself and everything around you? Let’s look at how we view spirituality in FasterEFT and how to lift our everyday thinking a little higher. Not only that—this article is also a practical guide to a better life, even for those to whom the word “spirituality” means nothing at all.
I don’t believe spirituality must be tied only to a religion or a creed. History shows again and again that people who claim to live a so-called spiritual life don’t necessarily do things right. Often, it’s the opposite.
For the past few years, my work has been to show people how to elevate their awareness, abilities, and skills toward higher goals—how to live with joy and love even when life is pouring down. It’s a pity that many who could be helped never change anything. They never act and remain locked in cages for which they themselves hold the key.
The first step toward spirituality is to step out of the victim role. Understand that we are the ones who have full control of our lives in every situation. Yes, there are moments we cannot influence, but we can influence what follows—because we have the power.
The second step is to realize it’s not “them” who make our lives miserable. It isn’t the difficult neighbors, it isn’t our parents, nor teachers, nor all those people who make our blood boil the moment we think of them.
The third and most important step is to take full responsibility for your life. Decide here and now that what happened is already gone. We must change what is inside us and free ourselves from everything that weighs us down and keeps us grounded.
There are people who, despite adversity, have achieved amazing things—and every one of us has this same possibility. It truly doesn’t matter if someone hurt you, even badly. It doesn’t matter if life hasn’t gone your way and you didn’t have what you wanted. The past is not the present—and certainly not the future.
The only thing we all must do is turn our attention inward and transform everything we hold inside. All the negativity we’ve collected over the years can be reshaped into something different and beautiful. Realize that the people or circumstances you “can’t stand” only mean you’re acting on past experience—that, so far, your system doesn’t know another way to respond when a simple inner cue triggers an automatic, unwanted reaction.
It’s time to stop running from what we feel. It’s time to stop numbing emotions with food, drugs, or alcohol. None of us is too weak to handle this. We simply need to be honest with ourselves and say, yes, this is what I feel; this is how my life was (or is)—and I want change. I’ll do whatever it takes, and if I can’t do it yet, I’ll ask for help.
Understand that you cannot run fast enough, fly high enough, or dive deep enough to escape yourself.
What we fear most, what we try to hide from—our fears become prayers. It sounds strange, and many would say they’d never wish anything so terrible, yet this is exactly what we do. We relive our fears, replaying what we dread most. People who fear heights feel dizzy because their mind—consciously and unconsciously—rehearses the image of falling; that rehearsal is often why the dizziness appears.
When we change what’s inside, our fears dissolve—and we reclaim the personal power to steer our lives.
Many readers have already experienced firsthand the profound results of the method I use most often. They’ve seen that not only has their own life changed, but the lives of those around them have begun changing for the better as well.
Recently, we’ve all seen news of famous people who lost control of their lives and are no longer with us. Many colleagues around the world know that had these people reached out for help, they might still be here—happy. Sadly, that wasn’t the case. And yet these people enriched the lives of so many…
Before I share a few tips to sharpen your skills, I want to appeal to each of you. If there is someone you care about, don’t hesitate. Tell them there are ways to be happy regardless of circumstances. Sometimes the simplest act—sharing a link to an article you liked or a video that helped you—can make all the difference. It doesn’t matter whether you help someone famous or a friend from the pub whose partner just left. Everyone counts. And it doesn’t matter whether you share a link about FasterEFT or another method you’ve tried that helped you. Helping others should be part of a truly spiritual life.
Tips to Succeed with FasterEFT
If you’re not here for the first time, you already know FasterEFT and that what we use most often is tapping. Perhaps you also know that for many people this simple act of tapping a few points on the body can have incredibly fast effects.
For others, the effect isn’t as visible at first. Some people are more analytical and need more work.
Whether you’re a “fast responder” or in the second group (for the record, I’m usually in the second), these steps can save you a lot of time and help you faster:
- Target precisely: to truly “remove” a problem, we must first aim directly at it. Notice how you create the problem inside. What do you run in your mind—thoughts, memories, scenes? Do you have pictures, photographs, sounds, voices, tones? Do you feel emotions and body sensations? How exactly do you know this specific thing is a problem for you?
- Don’t run from the problem. Don’t try to tap it away by escaping it. Feel it fully—one last time—even if you fear you can’t handle it… you can, and this will be the last time.
- Tap according to the diagram you have, and focus on the sensation of your fingers tapping your body.
- If the problem feels overwhelming and you can’t detach, blink. Deliberately blink as quickly as you can to break up the trance you’re in.
- Repeat again and again (yes, as much as needed) until the problem is gone.
- Try to bring the problem back. If you can still evoke it, you’re not done yet!
- Change the event, memory, or situation into what you wish it had been. Turn it into something that empowers you. After removing the problem there’s an empty space—fill it with the qualities and images you choose.
- If you can, go into the real situation: meet the people you used to feel uneasy around; look down from a balcony if heights used to make you dizzy; …
- Don’t forget others.
