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Sometimes all it takes is a small moment — a single question, a quiet breath, a shift you barely notice — and something inside begins to move. Maybe softly, like warm light settling beneath your ribs. Maybe unexpectedly, like a gentle realization that has been waiting there for years. And this is where our journey begins today… with the simple, powerful act of admitting what you truly want.
You might know the feeling. You want something — a gift, support, attention, help, joy — but the mind instantly fills with invisible rules. “Don’t be selfish. Don’t bother anyone. You don’t deserve it.” Old sentences. Old programs. Taught long ago and stored deeply. Yet when you pause for a moment and take a slow breath… you may notice that another voice exists too. Quieter, but real.
A voice that whispers: “I want this… and it’s okay to ask.”
This is exactly how the story of our guest began. During a TV interview, someone asked them a question so simple it almost felt strange. “And what do you want?” Not what is expected. Not what is safe. But what do you want — truly, honestly, without filters.
That question was like a beam of light entering a dark room. Suddenly, they could see the desires that had been sitting there all along — small joys, personal needs, wishes they had been pushing aside, waiting for “the right moment.” But there is no perfect moment. There is only the moment when you finally allow yourself to say it out loud.
So they decided to try something different. To give themselves permission. To ask. To be, as they called it, “fancifully selfish.” Not selfish in the way we’re warned against, but selfish in the sense of allowing one’s own happiness to matter.
They made a list of thirty things they want to ask for this week — birthday presents, Christmas gifts, financial contributions to savings, simple pleasures that light up the heart. Not because they “need” them. But because they want them. And wanting something is human. Natural. Healthy.
This small act, this playful idea, opened something inside them. And perhaps you can feel a little of that opening too — a soft loosening in the chest, a quiet warmth in the belly, a recognition that your desires are not a burden. They are part of what makes you you.
Fanciful selfishness isn’t about taking from others. It’s about stopping the habit of taking from yourself.
It’s about letting your own desires exist in the light instead of hiding them in the corners of your mind. It’s about remembering that you deserve joy just as much as anyone else. When you deny your wants, you shrink. When you express them, something inside expands — gently, naturally, without force.
Maybe you were raised to put everyone else first. Maybe you were told that your needs are secondary. Maybe you learned to smile while swallowing your wishes because it felt “polite.” And yet… when you imagine saying something simple like “I would really love this,” your body reacts. Shoulders soften. Breath deepens. The world feels a bit more spacious.
This is not a coincidence. This is your system remembering what it means to be whole.
Because when you say what you want, relationships become clearer. You stop expecting people to guess. You stop hoping someone will read your mind. You give them the chance to actually support you — not through mind-reading, but through communication. This is how honesty begins. This is how connection strengthens.
Just like our guest, you can start small. Make a list. One request. One desire spoken out loud. One moment of honesty. And maybe you’ll notice that with each step, your confidence grows. Your voice steadies. Your inner world becomes calmer and kinder. You remember what it feels like to choose yourself without guilt.
Because when you learn to ask… you begin to live.
And perhaps right now, as you read these words, you feel a quiet curiosity rising inside you. A sense that there is more to explore — not just about asking, but about the deeper patterns behind it. Why we feel guilt. Why we hold back. Why expressing our desires can feel dangerous even when it’s safe.
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