You might know this feeling: on the outside, you’re an adult – successful, capable, responsible. But inside? A small child that feels scared, rejected, abandoned, or not enough.
And this inner child often runs our emotions, relationships, and daily decisions – without us even realizing it.
Who is our inner child?
The inner child is a collection of all the emotions, memories, and experiences from childhood that we never had the chance to fully process. It’s the part of us that:
- fears not being good enough,
- feels abandoned when ignored,
- longs for love, recognition, or safety,
- hides pain and shame from the past.
It doesn’t matter whether you went through “big” traumas or just small, repeated hurtful experiences. The child within remembers everything.
Adults in body, children in emotions
Maybe today you have your own family, business, and responsibilities. But if your inner child is still wounded, it will:
- overreact to rejection,
- fear authority or conflict,
- sabotage relationships or success,
- crave approval at any cost.
These aren’t “bad traits.” They are unhealed parts of you calling for attention.
Healing doesn’t begin with criticism, but with compassion
Your inner child doesn’t need to be “fixed.” It needs to be heard, accepted, and understood.
In techniques like FasterEFT, we work directly with this principle:
- We identify an emotion in the present – fear, anxiety, sadness.
- We follow it back to the past – usually to a childhood memory.
- We release the tension, rewrite the memory, and add what was missing back then – safety, understanding, support.
This creates a new inner story – no longer guided by pain, but by kindness.
Emotions are not mistakes. They are clues.
Every outburst, every “irrational” fear, every exaggerated reaction is an invitation to meet your inner child.
Not to silence it – but to finally hear it.
What you can do today:
- Close your eyes and imagine yourself as a little boy or girl. How old are you? How do you feel?
- Ask: “What did you need the most back then?”
- Then imagine your adult self arriving and giving that to your younger self.
You may discover that this is where true transformation begins – not on the outside, but within.
Healing your inner child is not weakness. It is the courage to return to where you lost a piece of yourself – and bring it back home.