Each of us carries certain places inside – not cities or landmarks, but ruins of memory. Moments of pain, disappointment, and heartbreak that live on long after the event itself has passed. The past is not here, yet it can still control us. How is that possible? Because we keep it alive within us.
Robert Smith once stood in Crete, facing a garden full of blooming roses. He said a sentence that stayed with me: “The past exists only when you bring it back into the present.” Our ruins do not survive because something happened – they survive because we relive it. And that is exactly what we have the power to change.
What are the ruins of the past?
The ruins are not only painful memories. They are the emotions still attached to them. Every silent question, “Why did they do this to me?” and every hidden belief, “I wasn’t good enough,” – these are the true stones we carry. And the longer we carry them, the heavier life becomes.
We may believe we must hold on to the past to protect ourselves. But the truth is different: As long as we hold it, the past holds us.
The past does not exist. Only memory does.
When we recall our pain, the brain does not know the difference between then and now. The body reacts the same – with fear, anxiety, anger. That’s why so many people feel trapped. They live today, but feel yesterday. They believe they suffer from reality, but in truth, they suffer from a memory.
Robert Smith explains it clearly: “The past is not the problem. Your connection to it is.” And that is good news. Because connections can be changed.
How to release the ruins: It begins with a question
We cannot rewrite history, but we can rewrite meaning. It all starts with a question:
- “Do I still want to carry this?”
- “What if I no longer need to suffer?”
- “What could I feel instead of pain?”
This is where FasterEFT comes in – a powerful way to release the emotional charge from events. We are not trying to forget. We are learning to let go. To loosen the grip. To allow the heart to breathe again.
Ruins or roses? The choice is ours
In Crete, Robert pointed to roses growing between ancient stones. “There used to be pain here,” he said. “And look what is growing now.” That is the power of transformation. Not erasing the past – but transforming it.
When we stop gathering rubble, we can begin planting gardens.
How to start creating a beautiful present
We don’t need perfect answers. We need a brave decision.
- To accept that the past is over.
- To release the pain we no longer need.
- To create space for new emotions – peace, joy, love.
And the most important step? To dare to believe that it’s possible.
The final message
Each one of us has ruins inside. But we are not condemned to live among them. Ruins are the past. Life is now. And in this very moment, we can say:
“Enough of the ruins. It’s time to bloom.”
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